For the older single, dating can get intricate. But you need not live your life alone. Whether you consider yourself a boomer, senior single, mature, or “third ager” this article will guide you towards ways of finding a companion.
Before diving into the dating pool, it is advisable for the senior single to do some self-assessment. The most important question to ask is, are you ready for a relationship?
You see, one may be coming from a long relationship. If the relationship was a happy one you may not have come to terms with the fact that it has ended, reason(s) not withstanding. If it was an unhappy one, there may still be soreness.
It may be advisable to postpone dating if (1) you have not come to terms with losing a spouse, (2) you are clinically depressed, or (3) you simply don’t feel like dating. Seeking professional is a good thing in most cases.
Something else to consider is that senior dating brings together two individuals with a long history. Long history usually means more skeletons in the closet.
Older singles often wonder whether they are attractive enough to find a date. Some go to great lengths in trying to improve themselves. While self-improvement is not a bad thing at any age, you don’t need to change who you are.
To date successfully, you need to have confidence in yourself. Simply make any self-improvements necessary for putting forth a good image.
Senior singles are often also concerned about what others might think about their dating interests. There is nothing wrong with seeking love or companionship at any age. In fact, your happiness, once you find the right person, may well rub on those close to you in a very positive way.
What if you have a medical condition or physical limitations? Well, don’t look at your condition as an impediment to meeting new people. And, be forthright, right from the beginning when you do meet a potential date. Remember that you are looking for someone who’s willing to accept you as you are.
Where do you find a date? To find a date you need to meet people. This means going where people go. Parties, shows, library, cruises, speed dating events, and volunteer activities are examples of places to meet people.
But for dating purposes, online senior personals sites beat all other places and methods of meeting people hands-down. These sites are open to people over 40 (or 50 depending on the site). And, they are very vibrant with activity.
There are several distinct advantages to using internet senior personals sites, including:
1. A pool of older singles
2. Each person is looking for a date
3. No young people to spoil the fun.
If you are 40 or older, and seeking a date with someone of or near your age, you owe it to yourself to at least try internet dating – most sites offer free trials. By posting and responding to personal ads in a senior dating site, you might find yourself going from no date to lots of dates in a very short time.