Online Dating – How Far is Too Far?

You’ve made the decision to start using an online dating service and you’re ready to jump in and get started. Before you whip out your credit card and join a site, there is one issue you’re going to need to figure out before you get in too deep.

What distance are you willing to travel to meet that special someone?

When you are searching for your online dating site, the most important thing to look for is the number of members the site has in your local area. To do this, you need to define what your local area is.

Is 20 miles from your house or less the perfect distance, or are you willing to look at 50 or even 100 miles from where you live?

We like to think we act GLOBALLY, but we end up acting LOCALLY.

This decision will determine the available pool of candidates to pull from. Obviously, the more rural the location that you live in, the farther you’re going to need to look to find your match.

Remember, it’s much easier to meet someone for a lunch date or a cup of coffee than to set up travel plans to meet in another city. Let’s also not discount the difference in stress between those two meetings.

You don’t want to limit your options (you are looking for your soul mate?) but as you start talking with people that live far away, the prospect of meeting starts to become expensive (Gas prices, travel time, air fare, hotels, etc.).

As a long distance relationship develops, you also need to consider the long-term effects.

Once you’ve decided what your “local” area is, make sure that you take great care to protect your personal information. Since you’re dealing with someone who lives “near” you, information like your address becomes a more sensitive.

Make sure you’ve communicated with the person several times before setting up a face-to-face meeting with them. Don’t have your date meet you at your house, but schedule the meeting in a well populated area, and make a point to let at least one other person know who and where you’ll be meeting.