So you are really keen on dating a Filipina woman? Crossing cultures is a risk filled with challenges as both of you comes from different backgrounds and reared up in different cultures and ideas.
You may have a different view when it comes to dating. When you want to date a Filipina lady, you just do not come up and ask her out right the first time you see her. You have to start by befriending her, and it takes a long process before you can finally take her out on a date. Her conservative upbringing taught her to be wary of strangers, and as a foreigner you pose as a threat and challenge at the same time.
When she finally consents to go out with you, chances are she would want to go to a public place like restaurants, mall, games, or events where she can see friends and other familiar faces. A friend or two may even accompany you during your dates and this makes her feel secure. She is also sensitive to your behavior during your dates and she will not allow you to show affection especially as you are seen in public. She considers dating time as too for kissing or even holding hands.
Relationships with Filipina ladies pass several stages and if you are planning to take a Filipina for a bride, you have to take a long bumpy ride. Filipino women cannot afford to be fast, they are expected to be pakipot (hard to get) because it is seen as an appropriate behavior when they are courted. A Filipino girl never shows her admirer that she is also in love with him immediately.
She may go out with you alone after you both come out in the open and inform her family and friends about your relationship. When you go out with a Filipina lady and you are contemplating on taking her for a bride, it is considered improper if you will not meet her parents and her family for a formal introduction. Family matters most for a Filipina woman and you must learn to accept that.
There is a common but unspoken rule in the Philippines that says “When you court or date a Filipina girl you are not courting or dating just her, you are courting and dating the whole family”. This may seem like a tall order for someone as independent as you but following this rule will help you earn her respect and her family will look at you with high regard.
You should treat your Filipina with respect, lead the courtship with your heart and you may find a lifetime partner that will enrich your life as you have never imagined.
When out on a date, Filipina women are fun to be with when they are already at ease and relax around you. Ever a romantic at heart, a Filipina lady appreciates your creativity and resourcefulness. She loves surprises and unpredictability so if you go the extra mile and exert effort to make your dates unique and memorable, she will treasure your moments together.